Fitting In
Lately my sis has her eyes ‘widened’ when she started training at one of the coffee retail store- *$ (read the signs and u will know). People nowadays are so freaking superficial; and you really never know what they will do you.
Some people always put on an angelic look and aims to be the popular barista in the place while in reality, she shuns the cleaning responsibility, choosing to serve flirt with the customers all the time. Another type of people are those who try to undermine your ability and boss you around though she is of the same rank as you. That is why we all should learn to say NO and be assertive in a tacful way, for there are mean people like that out there in the working world to pounce on us.
My point is, how much of yourself are you going to reveal to people whom you just met, regardless of meeting them in workplace, uni, society etc? Sometimes we want to protect ourselves that we will definitely NOT be the 100% ourself when we just meet these people. I have learnt from past experiences that the more you put into a friendship, the more you are going to get hurt if you find that the so-called friend is NOT sincere in the friendship (e.g. takes your transport for granted, always need you to settle his/her problem).
Then there is the wavelength issue that I have always believed in. If I don’t click with you (ie. not at the same wavelength as you), I will just be your ‘hi and bye friend’. I will give you due respect if you show me some degree of respect.I do not care what you all say at the back of me-being antisocial, lansi, or cool whatever. This is because I do not want to change myself just to fit in. Sometimes I just smile and shrug off whatever remarks you pass on about me, in your effort to make fun of me or whatever. I am not those who likes to put on a mask-life is meaningless if there has to be so much pretence and fakeness.
Indeed, friendship and relationship are all about fate. At least that is what I believe in. To all those friends whom I can be my true self with and have shown their genuine side to me, thanks a lot!! *huGz*
April 21st, 2007 at 7:45 am
Hi!! how are you ?! Just passing by and dropping a comment on -Fitting In- –> Very true, people are so superficial nowadays, they can be like this now and change totally the next moment.
Example: In my case, people come and pretend that they wanna discuss assignment when in fact they havent done anything at all and they just want answers…So I thought ok maybe i’ll help by explaining a bit and gave them the answer for “reference” and reminded the fella “Dont give it to anyone else”…The next thing I knew was…My answer was all over the place, all those buggers copied and pasted in a way or the other. So now I’ve VOWED never to help those buggers anymore, not when they cant even care for themselves… BUGGERs… 