There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved. - George Sand -
Naturally everyone will be thinking of the girl-guy love since Valentines’ day is around the corner. However, remember there is also sibling love, friendship love and above all, the unconditional parental love. Do not always be the taker in a relationship, remember ‘it is in giving that we receive’, and there is much joy in giving too =)
Love is strong yet delicate.
It can be broken.
To truly love is to understand this.
To be in love is to respect this.
- Stephen Packer
I once read that relationship is like holding grains of sand in your palms; held too tightly,they cling onto your palm so much that it sticks there, held too loosely, you risk losing them. Given that the meaning behind his quote is so deep, it is clear that one who is truly in a relationship requires mutual understanding of the other party.
Don’t you all realise that we can roughly categorise people in a relationship, or so they claimed/ thought, into a few categories:
1. The Real Relationship
This is what I see as the whole point about being in love. Being in love, besides having the unexplainable romantic feeling, is to understand the person well, be able to carry interesting conversations (i.e. find the person interesting to talk to), to share the sorrows besides the joy, to offer support and care in the course of the relationship. In other words, it goes beyond looks.
Of course the more likely scenario is you tend to be interested to talk to someone whose look catches your attention (i.e. the person is either good-looking or pleasant-looking to you). However, if by fate, you get to know the person well (same society/class/work place/always bumping into each other), then you may get attracted to the person’s personality as days go by.
2. The Multipurpose Partner
I would just like to say how sickening it is to have girls having boyfriends just so that they have an ATM machine, have someone to be their driver (and also their friends’ driver), movie partners etc. Likewise, it is also disgusting to see that guys have girlfriends just so that they can show off to their friends and satisfy their sexual desires.
Some people may protest and point out that it is a mutual thing, so if both are willing, who cares? Oh well, I am just stating my point of view; you are entitled to yours too.
3. The Mr./Ms. Lonely
Some people have always thought that relationship is a ‘complicated matter’ and are afraid of commitment. Thus, they go around preying on naive targets that foolishly thought that he/she has found someone genuine at heart, only to realise later that the person didn’t know what he/she wanted, or knew what he/she wanted so well that he/she was multiple-timing.
These group of people are usually those who keep to their own gang of 3-4 close friends; they do not like to socialise or mix with others. Thus, when his/her close friends are not around, he/she feels the loneliness (because there isn’t anyone around to listen to his/her crappy talk). What better solution than to just pick a girl/guy who can be there for you? In other words, these group of people are desperate.
They, along with Category 2 people, have breached the true meaning of love.
Enough with that. The following is my fav love poem that I got to know about rather unexpectedly in the movie, ‘Turn left, Turn Right’ (starring Gigi Leung and the ever charming Takeshi Kaneshiro). It was originally written in Polish by Wislawa Szmborska. Read a few times to really grasp the essence of it
all=) Indeed it is beautifually written.
Love at First Sight
Wislawa Szymborska
Both are convinced that a sudden surge of emotion bound them together. Beautiful is such a certainty, but uncertainty is more beautiful.
Because they didn’t know each other earlier, they suppose that nothing was happening between them. What of the streets, stairways and corridors where they could have passed each other long ago?
I’d like to ask them whether they remember– perhaps in a revolving door ever being face to face? an "excuse me" in a crowd or a voice "wrong number" in the receiver. But I know their answer: no, they don’t remember.
They’d be greatly astonished to learn that for a long time chance had been playing with them.
Not yet wholly ready to transform into fate for them it approached them, then backed off, stood in their way and, suppressing a giggle, jumped to the side. |
There were signs, signals: but what of it if they were illegible. Perhaps three years ago, or last Tuesday did a certain leaflet fly from shoulder to shoulder? There was something lost and picked up. Who knows but what it was a ball in the bushes of childhood.
There were doorknobs and bells on which earlier touch piled on touch. Bags beside each other in the luggage room. Perhaps they had the same dream on a certain night, suddenly erased after waking.
Every beginning is but a continuation, and the book of events is never more than half open.
-translated by Walter Whipple |
Happy Valentines’ Day to those who have found their true love, to those who are genuinely in love with each other ^_^ To those who are not attached yet, enjoy your singlehood till you and your one find each other in the end.